Last weekend I went out to a post on U Street that has live music on Fridays. I was meeting a friend there (and ended up inviting another friend as I sat there), but I live close so I got there first.I walked in and the bar seats were all filled with men - all black except for one lone white guy.One guy was eating, everyone else was nursing a drink.Lots of women (all black) were standing, waiting for seats to resign up. O__-And let me remark that these were adults all good into their 30s.I walked up to the one guy who was standing at the bar, tapped him and asked if I could buy his place for a moment to tell a drink. He said sure, no job and stepped out of the way. This left me standing between two seated guys - one white, one black.In the very few minutes that passed between me ordering my salute and my receiving it, the white guy offered me his seat. I said thanks and told him his next beer was on me. He said, thank you, but not necessary.Now, I sat there for a good long time enjoying the experience music and sipping on two, three drinks til my first girlfriend arrived and not naan one of the black dudes perched on those bar stools offered their tail to the many MANY ladies (all black) who were standing.I *did* note that rather a few of the prettiest women came over and hugged the white guy while the black dudes just.sat there. Sipping on their drinks. Not offer up their seats. Not saying hello. Nothing.This all made me wonder: who raised these dudes? My pal is a hot ass mess. HOT.ASS.MESS I Assure YOU. But he would never sit when a dame is standing. Not ever. I know, because I have seen him in action AND ladies (neighbors, my grandma's friends) are always raving about how civil and mannerable he is, helping with groceries, fetching something, pumping gas, putting off the ice can.So here's how I interpretated the situation: For the men on the stools, these women were not worth of a seat. Or respect. Let 'em stand.In my opinion, it's a sad, sad instance of the state of male-female relations today. Sigh.Or perhaps I'm reading too much into it. What do you think?I guess this chivalry thing is on a lot of folks minds because my friend Lottie blogged about it today, too.
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